“Don’t miss your role.
No one has the potential to influence your son or daughter like you.
Yep. That’s a lot of pressure. And it can be confusing. You are a mix of teacher, coach, counselor, and friend. So here’s a one-sentence job description to keep you focused.
If you have a preschooler, EMBRACE their physical needs. Spend the first 200 weeks helping your child develop a sense of security and confidence.
If you have an elementary–age child, ENGAGE their interests. Appeal to your child’s curiosity to broaden their knowledge and abilities.
If you have a middle schooler, AFFIRM their personal journey. Show up consistently to give your kid stability as they navigate changes and discover their potential.
If you have a high schooler, MOBILIZE their potential. Guide your teenager’s values and passions as they launch into the new realities of an adult world.
Don’t miss this week.
When you count how many weeks you have, you will tend to make your weeks count.
So you know the number of weeks for each one of your kids. Count how many you have left with each of them [before graduation]. Then create a weekly rhythm for your family to be intentional about shaping their future. You can actually establish a few routines in your home to help you invest in how your kids are growing emotionally, socially, and spiritually.
When you share a MEAL TIME, you can establish values with intentional conversations while you eat.
When you pause at BED TIME, you strengthen your relationships through heart conversations.
When you leverage DRIVE TIME, you can interpret life during informal conversations as you travel.
When you connect positively in the MORNING TIME, you can instill purpose and give fuel for their day.
So take your CUE every week to make your time together with your kids count.
Don’t miss Sunday.
As a parent, you are not the only adult influence your child needs.
Sooner or later, a shift will happen in your relationship with your son or daughter. When it happens, it may seem like they will care more about what other adults say than what you say. Don’t take it personally. Leverage this shift to “widen the circle” of positive influences in your child’s life.
That’s why a church or faith community should play such a significant role in your family. You’re probably thinking, Yep, I was wondering when this book was going to bring up church. But consider the obvious. A church has the potential to connect your son or daughter to a caring leader who believes in their future like you do. How many other places do you know that connects kids to a leader who gives them a safe place to talk about God and life?
Every kid is looking for a tribe outside their family where they can find a place to belong. Either they will find somewhere on their own, or you can help them find a place that reflects your values and heart for their future. So why not connect them to other adults who will also treat them like they are made in the image of God?”
Excerpt from Don’t Miss It: Parent Every Week Like It Counts by Reggie Joiner and Kristen Ivy.